Friday, February 14, 2020

Wednesday, February 5, 2020

How to Compliment a Woman

In the MeToo era, it can be challenging for some men to know how to properly compliment a woman. My sister, Brie, who works as a flavor consultant with potato farmers in Idaho, gets a lot of attention from guys she works with. She suggested this as a guiding principle:
Dispense compliments as if you were getting them- in prison. 
Take any phrase you were about to say and imagine that were being said back to you by a very large and intimidating man, a known violent offender, the leader of a racist gang. (It doesn’t really matter which racist gang, so for now, just pick whichever racist gang makes you feel the most uncomfortable.) 
Wouldn’t it be satisfying to hear this brooding brute say, "Hey, you’re good with numbers. I’d like you to handle the bookkeeping for all my operations." That’s a nice compliment. If that's what you'd like to tell this woman you are so impressed with, Brie says- go ahead and share!
On the other hand, it would be a bit discouraging to hear the same dangerous fellow say, "You got a pretty ass. I want me some of that." O
bviously, this guy is focusing on your superficial attributes. You have a right to feel diminished and uncomfortable- and worried for your safety. That's a bad compliment. Brie would like you to keep that shit to yourself.
Thanks, Brie!

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